Blog 10: “Life After Baby”
Written By: Abby Custer
Out with the old, in with the new. What will my new life as a mom really look like?
I’ll never forget some of the comments that I received during my first pregnancy, regarding how different my life would look after my sweet girl arrived. I laughed most of them off, thinking, how can things really change that much? Most of the advice was light hearted, such as “Get as much sleep as you can now, because soon you won’t get any!” Or, “Travel now, while you still can!” While I’m happy to say that we’ve been fortunate to continue traveling post kids, and my daughter ended up being a wonderful sleeper (I can’t say the same about my son!), there were some things that definitely looked a little different after we added a member to our household. Going out to eat was no longer about what we were in the mood to eat that night, but was based on how kid-friendly the restaurant was and what time we would be home that evening. My daily routine quickly became based around our sacred nap schedule, and date nights or a movie with friends became something to be coveted.
“There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” C.S. Lewis
A good friend once told me that it seems as though children are always going through some sort of stage, whether it’s the dreaded 4-month sleep regression, teething, learning to potty train, refusing to eat vegetables, you name it. But she also told me that before you know it, that phase has passed and they are onto something else. And so far, this has been some of the truest advice I’ve been given as a mom. So if you’re feeling overwhelmed by some of the changes that your baby has brought or will bring to your life, take heart. If there’s one thing that we know as moms, it’s how incredibly quickly time passes. This is both a good and bad thing; good for those stages that are challenging, and bad for the ones that you want to hold onto a little longer, or maybe forever (like that perfect newborn cuddle). So even if it may not feel like it right now, I promise that you will get a full night’s sleep again, and you will have dinner at a nice restaurant with friends on a Saturday night.
Many people will tell you that life after a baby looks very different, and for the most part, they are right. There are hard moments and even days. But what they may not tell you is how much better that life looks too. When I think back on my days before being a mom, it’s almost like I can’t even remember them. I don’t say that as a negative thing; I’m thankful for the time that I had with my husband that was just the two of us. But our children have added so much joy, purpose, and love (and yes, sleepless nights) to our lives that it’s difficult to imagine anything else, and when I try to, my life feels so much emptier.
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19
Yes, mama, your life is going to change, and it will never be the same. The first time you see those perfect little eyes looking back at you, your heart will melt in a way that you never imagined possible. The first time you hear that sweet laugh, you’ll wonder how you could ever love anything more in this life. The first time your child embraces you with a bear hug at just the right moment, you’ll know that nothing else in this life could ever compare.
This is motherhood. And it just keeps getting better.