Is It Too Heavy?
Written by an anonymous volunteer of Compass.
Does it ever just feel like too much? The expensive bills, the young kids, the difficult ex-boyfriend, the sick parents, the inconvenient job, the global pandemic…not to mention the added inconveniences like a flat tire, an unexpected cold, or a password that you just can’t remember. Sometimes it feels like life just refuses to let up on you and give you a break to get it all together. You think that all you need is just a day or two where nothing goes wrong and everyone leaves you alone to do what you need to do. Just a day or two that you can take for yourself, and you’ll be fine right? Because you love your kids, and you need your job, and you’ll reset the password and remember it this time, and everything will be ok because everything has to be ok. Because everybody needs you to be strong, and you are strong. You’re definitely strong because you’ve been handling everything by yourself, and you’ve done it. You’re still doing it. But if you take the time to think about it, isn’t it all getting a little heavy? Maybe too heavy?
We live in a world where self-care is the priority. Feeling stressed out? Take a long, hot bubble bath with lavender essential oils, put on some eucalyptus lotion, and read a book before bed, and all will be well again. Feeling irritable? Go for a run in the park, grab your favorite coffee at the best coffee shop in town, and do a face mask when you get home, and you’ll feel good as new. Feeling overwhelmed? Take a picnic to your favorite spot and watch the sunset, and you’ll feel better than ever. Quick, magic fixes right? Wrong. I can take a long, hot bubble bath, but somebody is going to need me for something while I’m in that bath, and I’ll have to answer the phone or get out and clean up a mess or run an errand or something. And even if I do get to take that bubble bath for as long as I want to, the things that are stressing me out will still be there waiting for me when the last drop of water goes down that drain. So that stuff really isn’t self-care is it? It doesn’t fix anything. It’s not bad stuff, but it’s not going to make a long-term difference in your life. Self-care is about more than taking a run or grabbing an overpriced coffee. It is about taking care of your basic needs, both physical and emotional. One of the best ways to practice true self-care is to create and rely upon a social network...to have people in your life who can help you deal with everything that you need to deal with.
Sounds simple, right? Except you don’t exactly have time to go out and make a bunch of new friends, and your family members need you so you can’t turn to them, so that leaves you in the same place you started doesn’t it? What a super helpful blog post that would be. Except you don’t have to go out and try to make new friends, and you don’t have to turn to the family that needs you more than you need them. There are other resources available to you to help you figure things out and to help make your life a little easier. Compass is here for you, and we would love to help you figure out how to deal with all of the heavy stuff. We’d actually love to take some of that heavy stuff off your hands so that you don’t feel so overwhelmed. If you’re pregnant and trying to figure that out, we can help. If you need help finding resources for housing, food, and finances because the websites you’ve found are difficult to navigate and you don’t have the time to try anyway, we can definitely help. We know that you’re strong, and we are so proud of you for coming as far as you have and for accomplishing as much as you have. We know it isn’t easy, and we want you to know that you do not have to shoulder the entire burden by yourself. Let us be the start of that social network for you.
So take a second to ask yourself, is it too heavy? If it is, contact us, and we will help you figure out how to make it not so heavy because even the strongest people need help with the heavy stuff sometimes.