Blog 05: Identity Crisis…or Not?
By: Abby Custer
Like most new moms, as soon as I became pregnant, I wanted to learn more about the process of what exactly was happening inside of me. I picked up a book that compared the fetus each week to some sort of food item…I’m not sure why I found this so fun to read about, but I became somewhat obsessed with those changes. Perhaps it was the visual that was lended…or perhaps it was the fact that I was always hungry and could just relate on a much deeper level to food!
If you’re familiar with this comparison, the first thing that the baby is listed as is usually the size of a poppy seed, one week later she’s a peppercorn, next he is a pomegranate seed and so on. My husband and I chose not to find out the gender of either of our babies, so the nickname “poppy seed” stuck for a while with our first. All food names aside, it was even more amazing to read about how our baby’s body was forming each week as limbs, hair, and even fingernails began to grow and become visible.
For the full visual, check out this link: https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/week-by-week/how-big-is-your-baby-this-week/
Is there any miracle greater than the formation of a human life?
We can observe many other miracles in everyday nature. The fact that every snowflake is unique, or the process that tadpoles and caterpillars go through to reveal a completely different being, one more beautiful and mobile than before, is nothing short of incredible. But as astonishing as those creations are, they are nothing compared to the creation that God has formed in designing you, me, and every other person on this earth, beginning with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden.
“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them.” Genesis 1:27
From the very moment that we are formed, our identity has also been manufactured. You are most likely familiar with the phrase, “identity crisis,” but I promise you, there is no crisis. Too often, we try and create one by labeling or giving ourselves an identity based on our current or past life experiences and circumstances, such as being a mom, a student, a daughter, a worker. Sometimes we look back on past failures or struggles we have gone through and try to attach that label to ourselves as well; I am depressed, I’m struggling financially, I don’t have a supportive family. Or maybe it’s the opposite, and we live by our accomplishments to the point where we are proud and boastful; I’m the best at my job, I’m a top student, I’m a better mom than everyone else. I’ve spent more time than I’d like to admit searching and trying to find myself. This was especially true after I became a mom and quit working. Bringing another human being into the world changes you in ways you can never anticipate. But it also provides a fantastic visual of what it means to love someone more than yourself. That is the closest I’ve come to truly understanding how deep the Father’s love for us is, that he created us to be image-bearers, and gave his only child so that we can be saved. If you don’t know this love, you are missing something so amazing, friend. It’s a place like no other, that provides peace, freedom, and an awareness that you don’t have to be defined by anything or anyone else because God already knows your story. He knew it from the second that you were the size of a tiny poppyseed. He knew exactly what you would like, what your interests, accomplishments, and failures would be. Don’t lose sight of that. At the end of the day, we are so much more than what we accomplish in this life, and nothing can take away our true identity.
“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1