I Might Want to Choose Adoption
You’ve heard of adoption, but you don’t know much about it other than what you’ve seen on TV. You’re already dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and all of the information that comes with that, so trying to research the adoption process may feel overwhelming. Though you really do think you want to go through the adoption, there are plenty of people and resources to help you learn more and help you through the process if that is the direction you choose to go in.
We’ll go through a little bit here today.
Does choosing adoption mean I am abandoning my child?
The short answer to that question is absolutely not. Choosing adoption is a loving, selfless, and brave decision to make for your child, and you should feel proud of yourself for thinking about making that decision. Adoption does not mean that you are abandoning or giving up on your child. Instead, adoption can be a good parenting decision, especially if you do not feel ready to raise a child at this point in your life. It is ok to feel that way, and it does not make you a bad parent. Choosing to do everything you can to make sure your child’s life is the best it can makes you a good parent.
What is adoption?
Adoption is the legal process of transferring parental rights from yourself to somebody else making the person or persons you transfer those rights to the child’s legal parents. There are many people who want to adopt a child, and you would choose the adoptive parents from a list of qualified applicants. Adoptive parents have to go through an involved process with an adoption agency before they are approved to be included as adoptive parents. You can learn more about that process here. Adoption can sound like a pretty simple process, but there are many steps in place to ensure that adopted children go to a safe and loving environment. You can learn about all of those steps as well as more of the details of the adoption process here. You can also learn more about the adoption process in West Virginia here as different states can have different rules in place regarding adoption.
Is there somebody I can talk to about adoption?
There are many people available to help you walk through the adoption process. Compass is available to talk to you and help connect you to a variety of resources that can help you with your pregnancy and your adoption journey. The West Virginia Children’s Home Society is also a great resource who will provide you with counseling and help you make an adoption plan. You can also connect with Bethany, an international service that provides counseling, adoption services, and other social services that ensure children are cared for in the best manner possible. Talking to somebody who knows about adoption can be incredibly helpful to you if you are considering adoption for your child. Reaching out to one of these three resources does not mean you will have to choose adoption for yourself and your child, but it does mean that you will have somebody in your life to help you make the decision that is best for you and your child–somebody who knows a lot about adoption. You do not have to make this decision alone.
What do I do next?
Take a deep breath and call one of the resources listed above. If you are too nervous or uncertain to call one of the adoption resources first, call Compass, and we will walk with you as you take that step.