Written by: Abby Custer
Who remembers playing the iconic game of “M.A.S.H.” as a kid? Let me jog your memory a bit. The acronym stood for “Mansion/Apartment/Shack/House” and included various categories to predict your future such as who your husband would be, what pets you would own, where you would live, and how many children you would have. I’ll admit to logging many hours participating in this game during my childhood bus ride home from school. And while it was only meant for fun, whether or not you played this game growing up, at one point or another most of us have probably thought about the number of children we might like to have someday. Maybe that number was zero, or maybe it was six.
I always pictured myself with four children, but my husband was content with two. We currently have 3 (a nice little compromise), and don’t plan on anymore. But I’m also well aware that God’s plans are much bigger than mine. Bringing home our third baby was an adjustment. We were pretty far out of the baby stage at that point (with a 6 and 4 year old), and as my pregnancy progressed, I often wondered how I would manage keeping up with the “big” kids all while caring for a newborn. School adds a whole new dimension, and I found myself thinking on more than one occasion, “I can’t do this.” But something really amazing happened when we brought our little 3 home from the hospital. Those big kids were really, really big helpers. My daughter gladly offers to hold her little brother so I can grab some laundry, take out the trash, or even go to the bathroom!
Every situation is unique, because age, gender, and personality play a huge role in how each family functions. So maybe your oldest isn’t too interested in helping with the diaper department.
That’s okay. God will make a way. Look at your circle/tribe/people, whatever you want to call it. I promise that there’s help there, if you are willing to ask for it. And oftentimes, it’s not the people that you expect to step up at all that do.
I can be rather stubborn when it comes to asking for help, but I learned the hard way with baby number 2 that sometimes you just need someone else along for the ride, literally. Like last weekend when my husband was out of town and I asked my neighbor to ride along to my older kids soccer games so that she could help me with all the things. And guess what? She had a smile on her face the whole time. It feels good to feel needed sometimes. And it’s okay to need help. Momming is hard, whether you have one baby or multiples.
Isaiah 43:19 says, “Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”
In this passage, Isaiah is prophesying to the people of Israel about their exile in Babylon. The Israelites had lost everything, but Isaiah is reminding them that God is still with them, making a way for their future. God reassures his people that He will restore them, and that is exactly what He does. Passages like this help us to remember that God has not abandoned us in this life. If we have faith, we can trust that God will provide everything we need, even if we can’t see how that is going to happen right now.
Hang in there, momma. Help is on the way. You CAN do this.