Am I fit to be a mom?

Written by Abby Custer

Discovering that you are pregnant when you aren’t expecting it can be a very scary time. Perhaps you are in that situation at this exact moment, and you find yourself doubting your abilities to be a mom. You feel completely alone and helpless, not knowing where to turn.

Maybe there are things in your past that make you feel like you aren’t good enough to be a mom. But I’m here to tell you that we all have a past (filled with a few moments we’d rather not share), and there is something about becoming a parent that changes you. Your world no longer revolves around just you . Suddenly, your priorities are completely flipped upside down and what matters most is giving your all to this new, precious life.

Don’t get me wrong, there will be days where the phrase “survival mode” takes on a whole new meaning, and it will be all you can do just to snag a quick shower. Days like those can certainly take their toll, and it’s completely understandable to feel like you want (and need) a break. We all have those days. Despite what social media portrays, we all find ourselves losing our patience, yelling when we don’t want to, and feeding our children cereal for dinner. It’s okay. You don’t have to be perfect. No one is.  Just realizing that you want to do better is enough right now. 

Perhaps some of your doubt is stemming from the financial stress of raising a child. I get it. Just before I found out I was pregnant for the first time, my husband unexpectedly lost his job. I had always planned to be a stay at home mom, but suddenly that plan seemed like it may be impossible. Thankfully, God had a different (and better) plan in mind, and I’ve been blessed to be a stay at home mom for the past 7 years. It hasn’t always been easy, but I’ve learned to budget a little more wisely, and say no to things we don’t need. There are also many resources out there that can help. One of those resources is Compass. When you become a client, you are able to shop at the nest, where you can find everything from clothing, feeding accessories, bathtubs, diapers, wipes, and more. Compass also provides educational support to help you feel more confident in your parenting abilities, and answer any questions that arise along the way. 

Plus you can check out this webpage to find more local support! 

Sometimes we are our own worst critics. There have been countless days where I have thought to myself, “I can’t do this.”


Being a parent can be overwhelming, and when I try to do everything on my own, it usually results in a disaster. One of the best tips that I can share is to be realistic. There are only so many hours in a day, and only so much coffee you can drink. There’s a reason that the phrase, “it takes a village” exists. We aren’t meant to go through this journey on our own. We are here for you, whatever it takes.